Anal sex for beginners in five easy steps

Let’s face it, even if you consider yourself top of the tops we have all thought about trying anal sex, but even today with guys like us blogging about sexual experimentation, anal sex still carries a huge taboo.

We’re all aware of dangers of unprotected anal sex and yes there is the pain issue, but if you prepare yourself properly for penetration, and follow esmale’s five easy steps below we think your first approach to anal sex will be the a fulfilling sexual experience. Here’s how

Step 1 – Don’t forget to douche.
Use a douche or enema! It goes without saying that if you’re about to have anal sex or use a gay sex toy such as a butt plug, you need to use a douche to ensure that your anus is clean and clear of any compacted faeces. We recommend using an anal douche to guarantee complete cleanliness, and to avoid any unnecessary embarrassment.
If you’re feeling self-conscious about your partner seeing your anus in full for the first time, gently shave or wax the skin between your butt cheeks. You’ll soon be feeling more relaxed and confident in no time.

Step 2 – Use plenty of lube!
Do NOT even think about putting anything up your bum without using some form of anal lubricant. There’s a fantastic range of lubes available for you to choose from, for beginners we recommend a thick specially formulated anal lube such as swiss navy.
Try Swiss Navy water based lube or Liquid Silk Lube, all of which make anal sex slippery, comfortable and painless and are compatible for use with condoms, which is essential for any kind of anal sex or gay sex toy.

Step 3 – Start small!
If this is your first time trying anal sex, it makes sense to start off by using a small butt plug to familiarize your anus with the feeling of penetration. We recommend you try the small doc Johnson butt plug or anal starter kit – begin with the tip of butt plug, then gently work the shaft in until the whole butt plug is submerged.
The plug should feel comfortable and pleasurable. Don’t forget to use lube on each finger you insert.

Step 4 – Take it slow!
So you have been penetrated using butt plug and you love it. Now comes his cock make sure your partners penis is well lubed and he is wearing a condom. Next lie on your stomach with a cushion underneath your pelvic bone.
Using one hand gently spread your butt cheeks and helps your partner guide his erect penis in to your anus. He should begin by slowly inserting the tip of his penis into your anus. Remember that this will feel a little painful because it is your first time but it will get easier. However, if you’re in a great deal of pain or feel uncomfortable then ask your partner to stop immediately.

Once your lover has inserted the tip of his penis, ask him to gently penetrate your anus slowly, communicating with each other until your lover’s penis is fully submerged and you can build up a rhythm comfortably. You probably won’t experience an orgasm during your first time, this will improve with practice.

Step 5 – Clean up in aisle …
Don’t just roll over and go to sleep! After anal sex make sure that you thoroughly clean your anus and your partner’s penis. A good wipe with Pjur Med Clean Fleece Tissues should leave you feeling clean again but a shower is even better.

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