Anal sex for beginners

Anal sex can be daunting if you haven’t tried it before, but it is even scarier for your partner if you have tried it and they haven’t. To help! The guys at esmale have come up with a few ways to encourage you and your partner to give anal play a go.






If you feel more comfortable experimenting solo, the best way to introduce yourself to penetration as an anal virgin is by using a butt plug. These are smaller than your average penis or dildo. Try the doc Johnson clear anal starter.

Measuring just 3.75 inches in insertable length and with a small girth of just 3 inches, the doc Johnson clear anal starter has proven to be the ultimate first-time anal toy. It’s very soft and beautifully tapered to make insertion easy. Even slipping this petite butt plug in can prove a challenge for many anal experimenters but with patience and practice you’ll soon be used to inserting and wearing it.

First up, don’t ever rush or pressure your partner into anal sex if they don’t feel ready. The trick is to build up your confidence and trust your partner, so go slowly. Start off with a sensual anal massage, stroke his anus and perineum – this is a great turn-on for you and your partner.

When you are both ready to try some anal sex, use plenty of lube! Put a dollop of lube on your fingers and your partner’s anus. There are specifically formulated anal lubricant such as Doc Johnson and Swiss Navy Anal Lube. Help relax your partner by talking to them, promising that you won’t penetrate them unless they are ready, so they can just lie back and enjoy you stroking around their anus and perineum.

Ask your lover to masturbate while you stroke and play with their anus and perineum, and once they feel comfortable you can move on to some gentle fingering of their anus and eventually, anal sex.
Rimming is a great way to lead to anal sex and is sure to get your partner in the mood. Use a flavoured water-based lube such as ID juicy Lube and apply it to your partner’s anus. Try dripping a drop between their bum cheeks and as it runs, follow the lubricant with your tongue. It a lot of fun and will have both of you relaxed in no time at all!

One of the things that make many people gip at anal sex is the idea of cleanliness. An anal douche is the perfectly way to get you clean and ready for anal sex and using it in the shower or over the toilet means there is no mess either. Many of our readers use anal douches or enema kits for hygiene purposes, whilst some of you simply enjoy the unique feeling it creates when in use. The basic idea is to deposit water into the rectal passage, removing any compacted faeces, so that you’re clean and ready to go before inserting your favourite sex toys or having anal sex.

Using a butt plug as part of your sexual repertoire will lead to intense anal fulfilment and amazing orgasms. It’s a fabulous way to initially explore the boundaries of anal sex, either through solo masturbation or as part of anal stimulation with a partner. Either way, butt plugs are a sexy addition to your sex toy box and should be your first choice of toy if you’re an anal play virgin.

Anal sex for beginners

Anal sex for beginners






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