Facebook message: I don’t masturbate and have never used a gay sex toy before. Can you give me some ideas of where to start?

Masturbation and gay sex toys can help us to learn about our bodies, our likes, dislikes and those special spots that trigger intense feelings and sensations that make us explode. Plus, masturbators, lubes and male masturbation sex toys are a great way to get some practice in before you get down and dirty with the real thing with the real thing.

The boys at esmale received a message via our Facebook page from a friend, the message read, “I have never masturbated or used sex toys before. I’m 24, my partner satisfies me but I want more! Can you give me some ideas of where to start in the world of gay sex toys?”

First up, this is not uncommon, whilst a quick hand-shandy is part of most of our daily routines some guys think it’s ‘dirty’ or simply find it a major turn off. I for one think that masturbation is a fantastic way of caring for you, whilst using gay sex toys and masturbators, such as a Tenga or Fleshjack can definitely add an extra twist of excitement and pleasure to your play.

It’s just not possible to show someone how to masturbate as it’s simply an individual impulse and the kind of touch that you enjoy, will most likely be very different to the touch I enjoy. Each of us has to discover what we like for ourselves.

To get yourself in the mood, start in the bath or shower and using a sensual massage lotion. Allow yourself to drift off into a quiet place and let your fingers explore. Take as much time as you need to experience the different sensations around your penis, nipples and anus, using lube will help to keep things very slippery and add to the sensation.

Start by experimenting with different kinds of touch, rubbing the top of your penis, and pulling your foreskin back and forth gently until you find what really turns you on – then just keep on doing it. If you are ready to experiment with toys, have a look at the great range of gay sex toys and masturbation toys that the boys at esmale have reviewed in their blog, perhaps starting with a Tenga egg masturbator or something else that’s small and not too threatening.

Below are our top 3 masturbation toys and lubes.

Tenga

Crack open the revolutionary Tenga Egg masturbator. This discreet little masturbator looks just like an egg but inside is a tactile sleeve that simply stretches over the head of your erect penis, just add the tenga lube (included) and enjoy knee-trembling orgasms as you massage the super-tactile ribbed sleeve over your bell-end.

Fleshjack

The boys at Fleshjack are experts in the realm of gay sex toys and specialize in masturbators. With a patented Real Feel Super Skin masturbation sleeve (that feels just like the real thing) and a specifically designed inner canal texture, Fleshjack offers a premium masturbation experience.

Swiss Navy Premium Masturbation Cream

The boys at Swiss Navy have created a silky smooth cream lubricant created specifically for masturbation. It does not leave a greasy feel even though it is oil and silicone based. It is a thick cream that melts as you stroke it up and down your penis. Amazingly, your skin is left with a smooth, velvety finish.

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